F*ckboys come in all sorts of shapes, colors, sizes and all ages. They are not always easy to detect because they’re very good at disguising themselves. Furthermore, we fall victim to false promises and tendencies.
Have you ever spent days wondering why you haven’t received a text back from the dude you’re dating? I remember dissecting the text thread between this guy and myself trying to figure out what I’ve done wrong. Nope. Not doing that in 2018.
Time and time again, we allow men into our lives who are not deserving. And we wait to be “chosen” only to be left disappointed or with a broken heart. So, you’re back at square one, fighting to stay strong and heal only to repeat the cycle. Nope. We’re not doing this in 2018.
You should try something a little different this year. One thing for sure, love is not the feeling of abandonment, loneliness or brokenness. Love is consistency, honesty, transparent and wholesome. When you deal with an individual that possesses these qualities the relationship itself would be easy and feel less forced.
Remember, people will treat you how you allow them to treat you. Don’t just say you love yourself, but show yourself that you truly do by rebuking the toxic energy that is not conducive to your well-being. Someone who is full of love within themselves, make better candidates to fall in love. It’s really that simple.
Here are some questions to ask yourself:
How do you feel around this person?
Do you feel like you can be yourself?
Do you feel wholesome?
Is this person present?
When someone shows you who they are, never EVER ignore it. Take your “L” (Loss), LEARN from it, ACCEPT it and KEEP IT moving.
If you are left questioning whether he is into you, give him the boot. If he doesn’t respect you or your time, NEXT. If he just wants to “Netflix and Chill”, cut him off. If he says, “we should hang out” but never initiates a date, tell him to get the stepping! If he over-explains why he’s been super busy, he’s not interested in hanging out.
Let’s do better in 2018 and stop falling for these “ain’t sh&t having a$$ f*ckboys.”